Transform Your Life: Navigating Identity Shifts and Embracing Change

Dear human,

​​You are reading this because you are undergoing a profound identity shift. Welcome back!

As you know, these happen often for you… I don’t know why, but the theory is that because you’re so deeply committed to your growth and evolution journey that you upgrade more than the average Joe. At least that’s what I tell myself 😉

Anyway, let’s get to it. Change is happening. It’s happening fast… it feels like life is crumbling and falling apart on you (again) and you’re getting very uncomfortable, irritated, and feeling powerless because it feels so completely out of your control.

First of all, recognize that these are symptoms. Your feelings are valid and real BUT THEY ARE NOT THE TRUTH. Read that again.

These are symptoms… that parts of your old self are dying. You’re changing (read: upgrading) your identity. You’re healing through dysfunctional patterns and belief systems and replacing them with new ones. You’re learning to occupy more of your Lighthouse and embody more of your Soul.

While from the inside looking out, it’s TERRIFYING and “wtf” scary… rest assured that from the outside looking in, this is actually very exciting 🙂.

Before I tell you why, let me ask you to get real honest with yourself:

Has life truly ever let you down… or what were once labeled as “problems” look like opportunities for growth on the other side?

Have things fallen apart and not gotten better than they were before?

Have you ever not risen stronger, smarter, wiser, more experienced every time you’ve fallen?

The short version is that you’re going to be fine.

Better than fine, actually. You are upgrading, growing, expanding into your next identity self who is a perfect energetic match for the new level of income, love, happiness, and well-being that you’ve been praying for.

Why is this happening now?

BECAUSE YOU’VE BEEN PRAYING FOR IT.

You have prayer for God/Source/Universe (for the simplicity of this message, we’ll refer to the higher Creator consciousness as “God”) to forge your character into the version of you who has financial freedom, the love of your life, the home of your dreams, the family you never had, the conscious community, the abundance, the joy, the fun, the sexiness, the well-being, all of the things you desire and pray for again and again.

Knowing what you know, you would agree with me that in order to have these things, you must be the version of you who naturally embodies the traits of having it all?

You can have it all, not by holding it all, but allowing all of this to hold you.

Life wants what you want. And if you don’t yet have what you want, it’s because you don’t actually want it.

Sit with that one.

The main thing that’s blocking you from your heart desires right now are your fears. Fears that:

• You can’t have what you really, really want.
• You can have some of it, but not all of it.
• You can kind of have it, but not really because it will not be that great in the end or it will get taken away.
• You can have it, and then you’ll lose it.
• You can have it, but not for a really long time.
• You just can’t have any of it. Sorry.

You’ve played some variation of these stories in your mind.

I’ll get straight to it – it’s fucking you up. It is so, so, so holding you back, keeping you small, separating you from the thing you want the most.

And I get it… I really do. It’s not a joke when people say that we are more afraid of our light than we are of our darkness.

Especially you, that’s been through so much… the trauma, the pain, the hardships… when navigated unconsciously (which is pretty much what happened all your life until you woke up in early adulthood), it creates MOUNTAINS of armoring, self-protection mechanisms, disempowering belief systems, and basically an entire reality where it’s normal and familiar to play small, to draw within the lines, and to be a shadow of yourself.

It’s shitty and annoying that all happened, AND/BUT I know you can appreciate that it was all part of your journey towards becoming who you are today.

So, do you really regret it? Would you take any of it back?

No, you wouldn’t. Because you’re here now, obviously waking up to a new way of living, obviously choosing differently, obviously trusting that a better way is possible. Because it IS possible and you know that.

So, I’ve created a “thrive guide” of sorts (because hi, you are choosing to get the F out of survival) to remind you of a few things…

But first, I lovingly ask you to snap out of it. Snap. Out. Of. It.

Wake up. This is nothing to be afraid of. This is not something to drag your feet through. This is not life throwing mud at you.

This is life presenting you with an INCREDIBLE opportunity to change for the better. This is God answering your prayers, all those prayers you’ve been secretly praying, saying “yes, you can have it, you can have it ALL… are you willing to receive it? Are you willing ot believe that I am really out here, giving it to you? Are you willing to trust that even if it doesn’t come in the wrapping that you expected, this is the seed to the garden you’ve been dreaming into existence?”

So before we get into the golden nuggets, PLEASE do yourself the favor — give yourself the GIFT — of believing that this is all unfolding for your greatness.

Be OPEN and WILLING to choose excitement for all that’s on the verge of being birthed, instead of dwelling in the grief and misery of all that’s dissolving to create space for the new.

You can do this. Say it with me: “I can do this.”

As you’re navigating the tempests of change, here are a few principles to help you “see” in the dark:

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1. Grow your faith well beyond your fears. 

Change can be scary. So can identity shifts. But it only gets to be a crisis if you decide that something’s wrong. What if your faith is being tested? And not by God, by the way… the Creator’s not here to test you.

What if YOU are choosing to test your faith, to experience what you’re really made of.

You know that faith can move mountains. You know that with unshakable faith, people have done crazy things (both good and bad, but you know which one you’re here for)… with faith, Walt Disney got rejected hundreds of times before someone said “yes.” With faith, Thomas Edison made 10,000 attempts at the lightbulb before something worked out.

Yet here you are, scared because you fell down a few times. Terrified of getting back up and trying again because you’ve been hurt that handful of times. I don’t say this in a shamey way, I say this to remind you… 

YOU ARE SO POWERFUL!!!! Look at everything you’ve done with the little faith you’ve had.

Can you imagine what can happen when your faith gets so big, that it makes your fears look small? What would it feel like if you had so much conviction in your vision, that no amount of mess-ups and fallbacks could feel like a setback?

What happens then?

My dear human, it’s time to walk in faith instead of fear. This is the lesson. This is the choiceless choice.

Yes, it’s going to be a step-by-step dance at first of putting it down and picking it back out. Of getting connected to it and then forgetting you have it. Of falling on your ass and sitting there moping until someone reminds you who the f*** you are and you decide to get back up.

It’s a process and it’s going to move as slow or as fast as you need it to. Take the time you need to build up this muscle but know that the muscle needs to be build.

Why? Because for you to live a happy and calm life, you need to learn how to be at peace when what you desire has not yet manifested. And the only way to do that, is by trusting that it’s coming.

To cultivate trust = have faith.

Faith makes you weather-proof when navigating the terrains of the unknown because that’s how you’ll know in your bones that no matter WHAT happens… it will all work out in your favor.

Strengthen your faith by:

• Praying. Talk to God however you need to, but remember that being in the energy of gratitude supercharges any prayer. That said, just be you. Ask for what you need… ask for the support, the love, the resources… just don’t lose sight of the fact that you’re already SO provided for, even if you don’t see it from your current lens of reality.
  
• Gratitude. See point #3. Your secret weapon to always being okay.
  
• Appreciate all that’s going right. You’re very blessed, you know that. Like, top 1% of the planet blessed. Count those blessings. Not just at night or in the morning, but at any moment of every day. Notice how deeply surrounded you are by angels and opportunities.
  
• Gaining perspective. Talk to people who build you up. Let others support you and remind you of how incredible you are. Notice how many people have gone through much worse, only to come out thriving. You are so deeply okay.
  
• Be in service. The best way to become less of you, and more of something greater. Have you ever truly been in service and regretted it? No. What you have done is expand, every time. Feel better, every time. Feel your heart grow, every time. Do more of that. Have faith that you’re planting seeds of benevolence in the Universe… that will eventually make their way back to you.
  

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2. Cultivate your power to extend beyond circumstantial power or the need for control. 

Uff this one is a toughie. Don’t be hard on yourself, I REALLY appreciate the conundrum here. And/but… it needs to be said, straight and without frills:

Your lack of being able to “handle” the chaos of what’s happening is a reflection of your current capacity for personal power.

You’re freaking out and panicking because you’ve literally forgotten how powerful you are. If you knew, you’d be cool as a cucumber.

Circumstantial power is when you feel good and powerful because things in life are going great in the moment: there’s money in your bank account, business is flowing, you’re high on love, the weather’s great, life just feels like smooth sailing. It’s easy to feel good and in control when everything around you is smooth like butter.

What happens when things aren’t doing so good, though? And – worse – what happens when multiple things aren’t doing so good, at the same time?

Uh oh spaghetti-o… now we’re in trouble.

Now you’re stressed. And upset. And freaking out. And feeling like the world is going to come to an end and then using your tools to regulate yourself and get back to homeostasis, until shit something else pops up to dysregulate your nervous system once again…

… And the rollercoaster ride continues. You get thrown around like a leaf in the wind, which can be so damn frustrating because didn’t you do so much personal development work exactly to prevent this?! What about that massive toolbox you’e been building up in the past years, where did that go when trouble’s a-brewing?

Personal power, baby.

You’ve gotta build it up.

Personal power = you are strong, resilient, and capable through ALL that is happening in your life. The challenges don’t send you off into spirals screaming for bloody salvation… because you can stay emotionally sober and perceive that it’s all happening for your greatness.

That doesn’t mean you don’t get to have the hard feelings and crawl into a ball and cry. You’re human (see #4), you’re allowed to have the feels.

Still… let that not be an excuse to sit in your misery for prolonged periods of time, until someone comes in to check in on you (and then be mad it took them that long).

Instead, learn to cultivate your personal power.

You have agency over your life. Don’t ever forget that. You are the author of the story… and you are creating this story in real time.

If you don’t like what you see, guess what? You created it. What you didn’t create consciously, you’ve created unconsciously.

How do you know what you really want? Look around you. It’s what you have right now.

For some reason (which doesn’t have to make any sense – that’s why it’s the unconscious), you created this reality. It is what it is. But the excellent news is that just as you’ve created what you have until now, you have infinite opportunities to create something new.

That’s how loved you are – God/Source/Universe is constantly giving you opportunities to start again, no matter how many times you mess up.

You are a fractal of the whole. A slice of God expressing yourself so that Creation can experience itself.

You are powerful beyond measure. Own it. TAKE it.

TAKE THE RESPONSIBILITY. It may look heavy, but it’s liberating.

As my grandma says, we’re all born with a cross to bare, but if we allow God to take both of our hands and carry us, the load gets lighter (see Faith #1).

Say it with me, “I am responsible for my reality. If I don’t like what I see, I can change it. And I will.”

Good or bad, convenient or inconvenient, scary or exciting, You have agency. 

You have the strength to overcome this, the wisdom to transmute the pain into faith, and the vision to get to the other side.

In the shamanic realms, they say that we are never given a challenge we can’t meet. God doesn’t give us loads we can’t carry.

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3. Gratitude. Over everything. 

Every sage. Every mystic. Every religious figure. Every person who oozes joy. It all comes down to this message.

Gratitude is the secret to happiness.

I’ve known this since I was a child… I would ask people, “do you know what the secret to happiness is?”

And then tease them when they looked puzzled…. “It’s one word… can you guess what it is?”

When they couldn’t get it, I would say: “Gratitude!” and run off laughing or be all mysterious and pleased with myself.

I really didn’t get it then. I’m continuously in the process of learning it now!!

Point is… be grateful. It feels good. It works well. It’s one hell of an identity upgrade.

Dr. Joe Dispenza says that gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership… what a layered statement.

Can you imagine what would happen if you truly, truly took time to count all of your blessings? Take a moment to feel the potential of really feeling, to the fullest, every single thing in your life that you have to be grateful for.

It’s kind of… scary, isn’t it?

Almost like your heart would explode.

Which, if you’ve spent the past decades armored up because of all the unresolved pain in your heart, and wrapped tight in anger, regret, and guilt over your story, could literally feel like death to your Ego.

Because if you really took the time to feel it all, all of those fears you’ve been entertaining yourself with would be blown to smithereens.

Which means you would have NO more excuses. No more reasons why you can’t be so fucking happy, grateful, in love, in wholeness, in complete bliss and ecstasy right now. Not over there, after your identity shift happens… but right now, in the messiness of it all.

… Woah.

Now that’s threatening. To the Ego, that is 😉

But that’s what this whole identity shift is, remember? A threat to your Ego. A dissolution and integration of the parts of you that no longer fit into the new paradigm of reality you’re designing in your heart.

To the Ego, it’s death… to your Soul, it’s evolution.

Gratitude is the crack. It’s the happy juice. It’s the liquid gold that gets the alchemy moving.

The craziest thing is how fucking scared most people are to exercise this easy, FREE, potent, transformational practice that has the power to unlock their abundance codes, open their heart to love, and expand them into a complete state of receivership and partnership with God.

Crazy, crazy, crazy. Yet so, so human.

I long for the day when I can claim the love in my heart so boldly that I ALLOW it to explode in gratitude. This is the medicine…. the ultimate balm for our hearts, and the lubricant for that massive identity shift and uplevel.

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4. The human is allowed to hurt (but don’t sit in it for the sake of suffering). 

You know what you’ve gotta do. And you also know (for the most part) the ways that you’re not doing it.

Guess what. You’re allowed to hurt.

There’s a lot going on. Being human is not easy. You’re managing a system that has a soul, a biological machine with a mind of its own, all these feelings that come and go like the wind (extra points for being a woman), and on top of that, a mind that just won’t shut up.

You’re juggling a lot here. That, plus your extraterrestrial nature and your multidimensional self coming online and making this whole Earth game a few levels more complicated.

Compassion really is the antidote. As inaccessible or far away as that can feel sometimes.

It is, in many way, the practice.

It’s unrealistic to think that just because you know everything discussed so far, you’re going to perfectly fall in stride with it. Part of learning the lesson, is disconnecting from it to reconnect from it again. That’s the whole dance of polarity…. we create chaos to know order. We create indifference to know love. We create separation to know unity.

And on and on we go…. swinging to one side of the pendulum so we can understand what it’s like to be on the other.

The problem isn’t experiencing the full spectrum of emotions that inevitably come with change and with the process of our evolution.

The problem is looping in the stories and getting “stuck” in the suffering because we forgot there’s a way out.

If your human experience is hurting and you need to go crawl in a ball and bawl your eyes out, by all means. If you need to rage and scream and throw a tantrum… do what you need to do. Feel your feelings, all of them. Empty yourself out.

But don’t forget to wake up from the dream. To zoom out and remember that you are a microcosm in the macrocosm. You are a tiny piece of the puzzle and all of it, all at once.

Your Soul’s got things to experience. This is one of them. Have the experience, but don’t trap yourself in it with the Ego stories. It’s a tempting way to stay stuck in your current reality and avoid the inevitable change.

You can prolong it, but you can’t avoid it forever. And remember: prolonging it creates suffering which is a totally optional (and in my opinion, unnecessary) part of the human experience.

By all means, if you want to experience suffering, go create it, but I’m more interested in the “opt out” button. The suffering is food for your Ego, not your Soul.

Feel the pain. Then go do that magical stuff you’re here to do.

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5. Your practice. Is everything. 

A friend recently dropped a bomb that shook me silly:

We rise and fall to the level of our identity.

Our identity creates our systems, and our systems are comprised of our habits. To change our life, we need new habits, new systems, and a new identity.

There is so much that you know… so much that you’ve studied… so many breakthroughs, so many promises (so many broken), so many commitments to do things differently…

In the end, none of that stuff you learned matters. It ain’t no measuring stick for the things you’ve created in your life.

Thousands of hours learning, studying, thinking…. thrown down the toilet.

Ultimately, the ONLY thing that matters is what you’ve put into practice.

Not who you say you are… but who you are when nobody is watching.

That’s the real identity upgrade. That’s the undeniable, indisputable proof…

Not how much you’ve read about meditation, but how long you’re practicing it every day.

Not how much you’ve read about psychology, but how you’re managing your emotional state during this time.

Not how many coaching or therapy sessions you’ve done around your trauma, but how you treat people when you get triggered.

That’s the truth pudding. That’s where you know where you ACTUALLY are with your progress.

When you show up as someone that you’re proud of, even when no one is watching… that’s what builds your character.

That’s the stuff you’ve been praying to God for:

When you say, “God, can I please have this” (the house, the lover, the money, the health)

What you’re really saying is…

”God, can you help me become the version of me who has this?”

You know damn well that having just the external things will never be enough. It will never satiate your Soul. This whole game has always been, and will always be, about WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU FEEL INSIDE.

To experience satisfaction and joy in all those material things, you must BE someone who experiences satisfaction and joy… with or without those things. Otherwise, the moment those things are compromised (and they will be, because life), you destabilize and chaos ensues (unless you have your personal power, see #2).

When you pray, the divine answers…

By sending challenges, opportunities, people, and situations your way that allow you to “practice” what it really means to become that version of you who has it all… fears and all (which are now tiny in comparison to your might, see #1!)

So the question is…

Who will you BE when life asks you to rise into your next level identity?

You can answer that question intellectually… but can you feel, in your bones, that you’re ready for it? Are you ready to shift, not just your mind, but your heart, your body, and your very cellular structure?

If the answer is no… then you must practice.

Practice like your life depends on it (because it does).

No less can you ask God to help you win that gold medal in the Iron Man marathon without being willing to get up every day to train, to challenge yourself, to do the hard things so that you can prepare your mind, body, and spirit for such a challenge.

Your life is the marathon. The bigger, cooler, grander it is, the more you are asking for, the more you need to be prepared to receive the rewards.

God wants to GIVE you all those things. Your Soul literally CAME HERE to experience them or the desire would not have been planted in your heart.

But you gotta show up for it. The human self needs to do something.

Not because you’re not worthy of it already, exactly as you are… because you ARE…

But because you’re on planet Earth, and there are rules here. If you didn’t want to be here, you’d be having an astral party somewhere else where gravity didn’t exist and energy didn’t materialize into dense, physical reality.

You’re being held together in this meatsuit with the very same laws of nature that allowed Thomas Edison to turn an idea into a lightbulb that you can hold in your hands.

The dude had to wake up every day, 10,000+ times, to try something new, make mistakes, get back up again, and literally put the lightbulb together as a material thing you can perceive with your eyeballs (and has altered the course of history).

That’s not to say you need to have a go at it that many times or create mankind’s next invention, but it is to say…

You’re going to need to do something.

So, what are your habits?

Are they leading you towards the new identity you’re aspiring for?

The way that you wake up in the morning… how you talk to people… how you’re running your business… how you’re handling conflict in your day-to-day… how much you’re extending love to others…

Are you proud of it? Are you happy with yourself?

If so, what’s the next expansion? if not, what needs to shift?

The biggest change starts with the smallest habits.

This is not the time to skip out on your morning practice. This is the time to double up on it. This is not the time to be rude to people because you’re stressed. This is the time to overcome yourself. This is not the time to push your loved ones away because you’re afraid of your darkness. This is the time to bring them in and let them love you in your imperfection.

Change your habits, change your life.

To summarize… be who you say you are. Be the wisdom that you spew. Be the ideas that you endorse.

Don’t just explain your philosophy, to yourself or anyone else… embody it.

Step by step, that’s the work. And that is how the new identity because a sustainable one…. one that you will never, ever lose because it’s anchored into your entire Being.

This is GOALS.

So, in the midst of the chaos, the turmoil, the “what in the actual fuck is happening” of the death/rebirth portal, the void, the massive identity shift that you’re bound to go through again and again, as a human that is committed to your evolution…

Start with your practice.

Train for your marathon… focus on the process rather than the finish line… and RECLAIM the joy and satisfaction of being someone you admire right now.

Because that person will be your bestie, forever. That person’s got your back for all of eternity. That person is the one who will hold you up and remind you who the f*** you are on the next round.

Cultivate that person. Love up on that person. Respect that person. Because that person is you…

And so long as you keep showing up for this game of evolution…

You will never let you down.

Stay strong. Stay brave. Stay you.

Thank you. I love you.

p.s. To clarify how you can energetically and practically make huge changes to your subconscious in the next 30 days…  I recommend doing a Story Clarity Intensive with me.

In this intensive, we will dive deep into your identity shift, and what I mean by that is:

• Discovering the root of what has been causing chaos and confusion during this transition (it’s a blind spot – that’s why you can’t see it!)
• Clearing the blocks on a subconscious level – which looks like rewiring disempowering belief systems, releasing stuck emotions in the body, and clearing your energy system so that life force is flowing again
• Reconnecting you to your next-level identity – the part of you that you’re desiring to quantum leap to
• Receive practical, actionable, and customized action steps that will allow you to integrate and sustain the big change you’re calling in.

You can sign up right here. Spots are limited – first come, first served!